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It depends on how you define self-esteem.

There is conditional self-esteem (CSE). This is when you win a game, or succeed at achieving a goal, or are perceived as being a good conversationalist, etc., you may think, “This is good and I am a good and worthy person.”

If you lose the game, fail to achieve the goal, or are perceived as being socially inept, etc., you may think, “This is bad and I am a bad and unworthy person.”

Hence you take a ride on the drama roller coaster of life. We are all fallible human beings. You can’t help occasionally failing at work and love, so your self-esteem is temporary at best.

Shortcut to High Self-Esteem

You must realize that your performance is part of you, not all of you.

Instead of self-esteem, consider unconditional self-acceptance (USA). This is when no matter what happens, you totally and completely love and accept yourself – unconditionally – warts and all.

This is what I refer to as happily achieving. In my last newsletter I talked about how to experience more flow: be happy in the eternal NOW and have a clear vision for the future.

Being happy in the eternal NOW requires that you unconditionally accept yourself. If you don’t, you can’t be happy or happily achieve, so your productivity and happiness will suffer.

Here’s another ‘big idea’/ tool/ technique/ shortcut about how to increase self-esteem, or better, experience USA.

Stop seeing people as better or worse, higher or lower, good or bad. This puts you in competition with everyone else. No matter how good you get there will always be someone better.

So, instead of seeing the differences in people focus on the one thing we all have in common. The one thing that kings and serfs, moguls and tramps, blue collars and white collars all have in common. We’re all human.

When you see everyone as being equal in that we’re all human, your self-esteem will improve, as well as your happiness and productivity, because no one will be better or worse than you. This is how to more easily experience USA.

“Everyone puts their pants on one leg at a time.” We are all equal in that we are all human. Adopt and live this belief and you won’t be intimidated by anyone ever again.

Obsessively comparing yourself with others is a complete waste of time. I’m not against competition. But if you want to experience USA instead of CSE, the only person you should compete with is yourself. Strive to improve your best, even if just a little bit, every time, then watch your self-esteem, happiness, productivity, and success sky rocket!